“To cut, or to grow?” that is the question--
Wednesday, November 25, 2009
...in considering your hair style (and influence your whole image!). In "Growing Pains" Kennedy Fraser (Vogue, Dec 2009, p174) "recalls the chapters of her life through the cuts that defined her---and the long hair she dreamed of again." Interestingly in one of the last issues of Vogue I noted a group photo of new models. Almost (with just a few exceptions) had long flowing tresses. It truly seems a symbol of youth!
Never before has short cropped hair been more a symbol of an older woman. Understandably there are great reasons to have a shorter style. The thickness of your hair, face/neck proportion, health issues are all extremely valid. There are factors we can't control.
But I can't help but urge every woman over 50 to at least consider growing her locks to a longer--shoulder length or a few inches past her shoulders. Headbands (classic preppy is ageless and appropriate!)) or a ponytail are an easy everyday way to make it manageable, and stylish. Consider a loose chignon for the evening.
This is the first step in chipping away at a predictable "middle age" image. It's not the only way --and it's not the only adjustment you'll need to make---but it can be a major one.
Sherrie, I think about this all the time! If a woman looks good with short hair, and it’s what she really wants, great. But enough with this dated conformist look for everyone!
I agree with you: hair at or plus/minus shoulder length is great for any age or personal style. I did try the conventional chop thing in my early 50’s, also did the dyed hair helmet thing. I thought since everyone says it looks better on older women, I ought to give it a fair trial. I went to the best stylist in town, got a fairly fashionable short cut, and....no way will I do this again! It felt like I had joined a herd! I grew it out again to a classic mid-length bob - naturally salt ‘n’ and pepper - and there it will stay. I ponytail it some days, wear headbands or chignons other days, and sometime just let it flow. I get compliments on my hair and I love it this way.
Love your books, blog and wonderful advice.
Madam Marie, rockin' 63! on December 14, 2009 at 12:32 MST
Thank you for this. I am so sick of hearing that older women shouldn’t wear their hair long. I try to not pay much attention to such repressive societal dictates.
Stephanie on November 26, 2009 at 4:52 MST